8 Ways to ruin a relationship

(Didn't write these my self, just translated in to English.)


1. Taking your partner for granted


Relationship problems grow fast
if you assume that your partner will always be there for you,
even if you don't give anything back.
You should never relate your partner to a furniture or robot,
that will do everything you want without complaining
and without your appreciation.
Notice your partner and what he/she has done for you,
thank him/her, be polite and notice him/her.
Think about how you treat your guests, why would you treat him/her worse?


2. Stop talking


Remember how your relationship started? You probably talked for hours!
Time goes on and you forget the talking.
The relationship is in real danger when you stop talking to each other.
It's not the normal chit chat, but the deeper conversations,
where you learned to know each other in the beginning of the relationship.
Don't forget the real conversations.
And it's not about the kids, work, days news or the weather.


3. Stop showing your feelings


When the relationship gets steady, talking about your feelings decreases.
You don't express your love with words anymore,
you might not even express anger anymore.
Usually big feelings disappear and leaves only everyday, sexless thoughts.
Even if these tired thoughts might seem unnecessary
to share with your partner, try it anyway.
The biggest passion usually fade in a long relationship,
but feeling the feelings and talking about them is always important.


4. Stop listening


Everybody wants to be heard, so your relationship is in deep danger
if you don't wanna hear what your partner has to say to you anymore.
Not listening usually means loss of respect and carelessness.
Also remember that listening means really listening actively.
Only hearing your partners voice is not the same as listening.


5. Forgetting to be fun


Why do we get together with someone?
We might have common values, religion, interests, physical attraction..
But most of all, we choose a partner
that we enjoy being with and have fun with.
You shouldn't forget the fun, because it's your relationships resource.
What did you enjoy together before? Try to find humor in life again,
laugh, do things together again.


6. Nagging


Continuing nagging in a tedious tone is very bad for the relationship.
If you intervene in everything you think your partner is doing wrong,
your choosing the wrong way.
Nobody wants to get judged and constantly guided.
Your ways, as also your partners ways, are not always the right ones.
You can clean, make food and take care of the kids
in so many different ways, which might all work.
Give your partner a chance to be him/her self.


7. Threatening


Threatening doesn't belong in a healthy, good relationship.
You shouldn't threat divorce/break up, telling your partners parents, leaving
or anything else. Threatening is usually a sign of desperation
and that things have gone out of your control.
Threatening is like a last try to make the partner do as you want.
Threatening doesn't take the relationship forward, but usually hurts both.


8. Ignoring your partner


Hating someone is not even worse than ignoring completely.
Ignoring without any feelings is a sign that your partner
just doesn't mean anything anymore to you, not even as much as hating.
You didn't get in to a relationship to get put a side, did you?
If you stop caring about your partner for more than two days,
your relationship is in trouble.
You should always care about your partner enough
to even solve your problems together.


~ Love, Nina ♥

12 reasons why you're single..

(Didn't write these my self. Just translated in to English..)


1. You're superficial

If you have evaluated all his flaws 
already in a few seconds on your first date, 
you can call your self superficial.
Even if the person is very attractive, you're still going to find flaws. 
Give him a chance!

2. You're too independent

There's a lot of good things about being single. 
For example you can come and go as you want.
But the truth is that at some point
you don't want to do everything by your self. 
If you don't want to be forever single, 
learn how to make compromises 
and give up a little of your independensy.

3. You don't take care of your self

Not taking good care of your self usually backfires on dating. 
If you don't care of your looks or your home is like after a bomb, 
it's time to look in the mirror. 
If you don't care, why would someone else care?

4. You're desperate

The truth is, desperation shines through for miles. 
So if you manage to get a number from a nice guy, 
it's not smart to start "bombard" him with phone calls 
and messages ten times a day..

5. You're too nice

You're always helpful, polite and nice. Every mans dream. Maybe not. 
Many men think being too nice is a weakness of personality 
and that doesn't turn him on.
Also show your tough side, 
this way you'll make him understand that you're not his "door mat".

6. You're a control freak

You like it when things go your way 
and you don't have room for compromises.
If you unnerve right away when you loose control, 
it's maybe time to loosen up a bit.

7. You're too shy

In life, there will come a day when you have to face your insecureness 
and deal with the fact that you're going to be alone forever.  
If you have no self-confidense what so ever when it comes to guy's, 
take some of your social friends with you 
and learn from how she/he approaches guy's.

8. You're a shellfish. JK!  You're selfish

If you only think about your self, 
you can be sure that you can do that for a very long time,
because you'll probably never gonna find a relationship/partner 
with that attitude. Try to put others before you more often.

9. You love your self

You are perfect and great. 
You don't need a relationship, 
because everything you do, say or own is so wonderful.
It must be great being you.

10. You're a work-aholic

A great job and a sense of direction are not bad things.
But they might ruin many opportunities for a relationship.
If you constantly have too little time for any social relations, 
you're practically already married - to your job.

11. You still love your ex

Your relationships will never work if you're still yearning for your past loves.
Best thing would be to move on and forget the past.
No-one wants to live in the shadow of an ex.
Not to mention that it's pathetic.

12. You're boring
No-one wants to hear the same thing a thousand times,
especially if it's not funny.



If you're going to talk a lot, at least be more interesting.
Otherwise you should just stay quiet 
and conceive mysterious image of your self.


~ Love. Nina ♥

A little poem I made. :)

My heart says I'm dying,
but I know it's just lying.
I might not be able to handle this well,
but I'm putting my self under a spell.
I'm never going to leak a tear,
even though you were my dear.


~ Rhyming, Nina ♥

"Favorite Quotations" FB

"Life is too short for misery!"

"I am me, that's all I can be. No more, no less, don't second guess."

"I'm nice, until you give me a reason not to be."

"If you're good at something, never do it for free."

"A true gentleman is one who is never unintentionally rude."

"Good taste is the excuse I’ve always given for leading such a bad life."

"I have the simplest tastes. I am always satisfied with the best."

"Truth is, everybody is going to hurt you; you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for." -Bob Marley

"You're not your job. You're not how much money you have in the bank. You're not the car you drive. You're not the contents of your wallet. You're not your fucking khakis. You're the all-singing, all-dancing crap of the world." - Taylor Durden, Fight Club.

"Kukaan ei ole hyödytön, aina voi olla edes huonona esimerkkinä."

"When the devil asks you to dance, you better say never,
because a dance with the devil may last you forever"

"Everyone wants happiness, no one wants pain.
But you can't make a rainbow, without a little rain."